Lee wrote:And you are too kind for that.
We all know it is Lee.
And to think that Lee has been holding back!
Oké you win. Since you beat me, I hope you make it to the final and win that as well. Then I can at least say I lost of the champion.
I must agree I'm "too" kind, and can't help it. When I was younger I tried being a cool badboy for social value purposes, but I could never pull it off. The kind and compassionate qualities are just stronger in me. Like I just spend 1/2 off my free day, taking care of and nurturing a cute foreign girl, that just arove at my city to come to study here. I just met her that day by random, and decided to to take care of her. To my suprise there was no intention with me to do this for it leading to sex, that was really a big suprise for an horny (uuhh I mean sexual) being like me. There really is nothing more fun for me then taking care of someone that I feel like taking care of (aka feels like a "worthy" or "approciative" person towards my helping), and expecting nothing in return.
Anyways. Unsolicited advive time:
The guy could use a little more tolerance to people who aren't as enlightened as he thinks he is.
but as another contributor pointed out be nice to yourSelf and your Self will be nice to you.
I have issues with the rude and condescending.
Offcourse, it has happened to me in my life often that I had an emotional reaction to what someone said, and it possibly leading getting irritated/mad/etc.. For myself, it only got no personal problem, and escalated internally anymore when I saw: 1. the process, and 2. that it must say something about myself (better said perception/wished perception of myself) and to just look what that might be.
The proces I think is: 1. Emotional reaction to what is read (no problem so far) and the 2. Getting involved with that reaction, and then doing all kinds of stuff with it mentally.
What aspect in you is Max trigerring, when he is being rude/intollerant/condescending? Did your partent/realtives/loved ones treat you this way when you were younger, and haven't you been able to forgive them for doing that? Did or would you like to also sometimes be rude/intollerant/condescending to certain pepole, but does your inabitions prevent you from doing that or is that an (small) aspect that is also within you that you haven't been able to accept being there? Do you try to not express rude/intollerant/condescending things because it doesn't fit in with the personailty you have created for yourself and what you are, and therfore supress that aspect and are not able to accept it? etc..
This is just an example of how I would treat such a thing internally, would it happen that certain charachter traits in someone else would lead to personal/mental escalation in myself (which for me means, beyond just the first initial emotional (natural) response). And I felt like sharing how I treat such things, when it does accur for me.
My pennies for today, Scarface.
Who or what is the authority figure, that possess volition, free will or power in you?
I couldn't find one. Just an ego thinking it possesed the above qualities, yet in all my experiences I saw it didn't have any of those qualities. Nor any other quality.