Comments on: Tony Robbins on The 5 Relationship Stressors

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 02:02:48 +0000

...and as far as the question of what has my experience been like: Yes, I've seen the patterns Tony talks about and recognize all the stages. It is always more refreshing to the relationship to say in constructive ways what is bothering us. Husband likes to hold back, as Tony was talking about, then I can feel it build into this passive-aggressive resentment. Once we talk about what's bugging him, I nod my head, I rephrase what he just told me, and say I understand. This always puts him in a better mood. Jessicas last blog post..More Rumi for Valentine’s

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 19:33:10 +0000

I second that, Sumiran. I pulled out my Rumi book from the closet today and posted my favorite. Thanks for these videos, Ariel! Jessicas last blog post..Rumi for Valentine’s Day

By: vvwalzbe

vvwalzbe — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 17:46:07 +0000

awesome!

By: vvwalzbe

vvwalzbe — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 17:43:24 +0000

The idea of the story here shows you that you can see what you want to see. Tony mentioned that you see what you’re looking for so if you tell yourself a story, especially a negative one, you start seeing that and finding proof of the little things. Stuff like someone not doing the dishes becomes a deliberate attack on you rather than they were just too busy at that moment. I took his idea of changing your story into a more positive one as just opening up and letting the negative go. In my experience, if you aim at just being and tap into the inner joy and peace that just is, you’re able to really connect more and truly enjoy the other person.

As far as the romantic love, yes the concept that you need someone else to fulfill you is horrible. If you approach it from a stage of being complete and just enjoying the other person then romantic love can be AMAZING. I love spoiling a partner or even a great friend with an elaborate meal and the little things that make their day (ie a more romantic love). I see it as a wonderful opportunity to give unconditionally and spread joy. I find great joy and a sense of completeness and connectedness in doing the little acts like this that make someone’s day. It’s a way to honor the other person and spread love.

By: Ismaelia

Ismaelia — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 17:26:45 +0000

Yes, This is how I feel about relationships as well. When I feel annoyed or disappointed in my relationship I look inward to realign with Source and then I realize that I had a certain expectation that comes from ego not my true nature. I release that expectation and the annoyance vanishes as well. My partner becomes my teacher without even knowing it! I am grateful for the lesson and for him and I am grateful for the opportunity to share on this blog. Yay!

By: Nicholas Powiull

Nicholas Powiull — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 16:47:39 +0000

Here is what I learned the most: Honor your feelings as number one. When you make it your number one priority to feel good, then you allow yourself to ‘create from a place of positive energy’. Hence when you're feeling good, you express 'feel good energies' to your relationship. Along with this, is realizing that nothing around you in your environment especial people need to change in order for you feel good. Feeling good comes from within and when you’re not feeling good it’s because your perspective is different then that of your ‘Source’. Feelings are the language of ‘the soul’ and you can be aligned with who you really are by paying close attention to how you feel. Nicholas Powiulls last blog post..Powiull Sleep Day 10-11 (Adopting Powiull Sleep: Different Methods): by Nicholas Powiull

By: ~ Julie

~ Julie — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 14:54:08 +0000

By: Sumiran

Sumiran — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 08:26:18 +0000

On the occasion of valentine day, I as always reminded by the sufi way of loving; the divine romance. The way Rumi speak, or the Khayyam, they call the god their valentine.. Their journey becomes love affair. Sumirans last blog post..Rekindling the Divine Love: Letter from The Master

By: Ariel Bravy

Ariel Bravy — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 04:22:55 +0000

How YOU doin’?

By: Ariel Bravy

Ariel Bravy — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 04:22:07 +0000

Well keep in mind Tony isn’t about enlightenment. He’s about personal development and mastering the mind which is a different game than transcending the mind.

The point I wanted to focus on was the idea of being very honest and open. The part about the stories is a secondary thing, at least for the context of this post.

Romantic love as in the idea that “you complete me” or “I can’t live without you” is bogus, yeah. That’s silly when you realize you are whole, complete, and infinite. How could you be missing anything?

Love and joy received and thoroughly enjoyed!