Posts Tagged ‘Unconditional Love’
Trying to understand someone is not the same as loving them, though we might think that’s a path to love. What that is is an attempt to access the heart by first going through the mind, as if the mind is a gatekeeper for the heart. (It’s not, but we can act this way.) When we live this way, when we feel a lack of love, we may seek to recreate it by seeking to create a sense of mutual understanding, but that’s actually placing a condition upon love and thinking that external things need to be a certain way for us to have a particular internal state of being.
Love can flow during both understanding and misunderstanding.
This isn’t to say that there isn’t value in seeking clarity with another person when there is misunderstanding present. Of course that can be a very helpful and beneficial thing to do. What I am saying is that we don’t have to require the prerequisite of understanding another person’s point of view mentally and making sure they see your point of view before we allow ourselves to open up to the flow of love. Mutual understanding can certainly help us open and take down our walls, yes, but it doesn’t have to be a requirement for us to love what is, for that makes love conditional. The following quote is taking on deeper meaning for me tonight:
“Spiritual practice is the capacity to offer your love even when you feel hurt, closed down, tense, angry, misunderstood, or hated.”
-David Deida
By love I don’t mean affection towards another, approving of them, having them be a part of your life, or even liking their behavior and choices. Not that.
It’s more about accepting others the way they are, accepting yourself the way you are, being a YES to life, and being open to allowing what is to be without closing down and attempting to separate yourself from the moment. Love is what we feel when we surrender our resistance to what is.
Surrender means to love without limits. It means to relax your guard so your lover can feel your core–authentic, unhidden, and undefended. Your muscles relax. Your breath becomes full. Your body and heart willingly open to your lover. If you are hurt, then you are hurt, but in any case you practice to remain open and full, like the ocean.
-David Deida
Ahh, life… 
So today I had the opportunity to experience what it’s like to be cast as the role of villain and to have a bunch of people get angry at me, something I haven’t experienced in quite some time now. Although it certainly wasn’t a pleasant experience, I learned a lot from it and would like to use it as a springboard to talk about how to respond when you are on the receiving end of attack, insult, and abuse.
Whether we’re talking about something big like a terrorist threatening to blow your head off or something small like someone casting you a disapproving look, let’s explore what we can do as conscious beings when we find ourselves in a situation where we are being attacked.
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Love itself is unconditional by its very nature. It just loves. What else can love do?
Love itself doesn’t hold back. It doesn’t fear. Holding back holds back. Fear fears. Love simply loves.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
-Rumi
For those of you familiar with author David Hawkins, he speaks of progressive levels of consciousness that one can evolve through. Towards the higher end of the spectrum, beyond guilt and shame, one can open up to the flowering of love itself.
At first this love that is experienced may seem conditional. For instance, maybe you only love the people you approve of. Maybe you only love your friends and family. Maybe you only love “your type” of people. Maybe you only love these people in certain situations and under particular contexts and not others. In this sense, we could say that this love is experienced conditionally.
Yet experiencing love conditionally does not mean that love itself is conditional. For those of you who are looking to become unconditionally loving, let’s take a closer look at this.
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The idea of being a “good person” is just another false sense of self that we can buy into. Being a good person is not the point of spirituality, interestingly enough. It is not the goal. It’s not about being some superloving and compassionate saint. It’s about realizing who you really are. With this realization, you may find that you naturally become very loving and compassionate, just like the many others who have done so before throughout history, but that’s secondary. It’s not the primary focus. It’s a superficial change that tends to occur in the presence of the deeper inner realization.
One identity that I’ve been playing for a long time is being “a good person.” I was a good student in school, avoided getting in trouble, was a law-abiding citizen in life, and so on. There’s nothing wrong with any of this at all. It’s simply that none of these define who you are.
self-definition
If you stopped being “a good person,” would you cease to exist?
Well no, of course not. Then it’s not who you really are.
You are not a good person.
But what does the mind do when it hears the phrase, “You are not a good person?”
That’s right. It goes straight to its opposite. “If I’m not a good person, then that means I must be a bad person.”
But is that true? If you stopped playing the part of “bad person,” would you cease to exist?
Again, no. You are neither a good person nor a bad person. You are not definable along any part of the made-up spectrum between good and bad. In fact, you are not definable at all. You exist beyond duality.
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Something that is common in our society is feeling unworthy. Depression runs rampant. We are told early on that we are sinners. Advertisers tell us that we’re not good enough until we buy a particular product. We hear that we’re not rich/successful/beautiful/lovable enough until we achieve certain things in our lives. In school we’re graded according to how many mistakes we made. We’re constantly trying to improve ourselves, under the assumption that who we are right now isn’t acceptable or worthy.
It’s a common theme in our society today, this feeling unworthy idea.
Yet ironically, feeling unworthy is one of the most arrogant and egotistical things you could possibly say!
Say what!?
By suggesting that you are unworthy, what you are saying is that yes, everything in the Universe fits perfectly EXCEPT ME. I stand out as the only unworthy aspect of ALL of Creation! 
Look… if you really were as unworthy as that silly mind you have sometimes tells you you are, Creation would not have created you because you truly wouldn’t belong. Creation doesn’t make mistakes. There are no accidents and that includes you.
If you were truly unworthy, YOU WOULD NOT EXIST!
Period!
Who You Are
You are an aspect of the One and you ARE the One, pretending in a sense, to be a part of the One.
Because of this, by saying “you” are unworthy, you are saying all of Creation is worthless.
We are all unique and perfect aspects of Creation, like puzzle pieces of God. When we are really and truly being ourselves, we fit perfectly into the puzzle of All That Is.
If you were not worthy, you would not have been created. You would not exist.
The fact that you exist shows you that you ARE worthy, just the way you are. It’s as simple as that.
You Are Unconditionally Loved.
TOTALLY!
In fact, you are SO Unconditionally Loved that you are allowed to believe and thus experience that you are NOT Unconditionally Loved if you feel that’s an important experience for you to have. THAT’S how Unconditionally Loved you are. You are given that freedom. That choice.
Once you decide you no longer want to create this experience for yourself, you can change it with the speed of your thought.
Safety During Danger
Like in a dream at night, you can have any experience you wish, and no matter what happens when you dream, you know that you will always be safe.
What we imagine to be “real life” is the same way. You can believe and experience anything you wish. This is what is meant by the statements “You can have anything you desire,” or “Whatever the mind can concieve and believe, you can achieve,” or “Anything is possible.”
This life is like a sandbox, a dream, a movie in which we can experience anything we wish.
You Are Loved
You are safe. It’s okay. You are loved. Who you truly are, who you REALLY are can not be damaged. You can not be hurt. You can not die. You are completely and totally safe, NO MATTER WHAT!
THAT is how completely and totally Unconditionally Loved and supported you are.
The enlightened sages who have come to realize this for themselves do not fear in the face of apparent danger because they have come to realize this core truth for themselves.
You are UNCONDITIONALLY LOVED. 
Creating Love or Fear
As a Creator, created in the image and likeness of God, you have the ability to create any experience you so desire.
By resisting your natural state of being Loved, you create the experience of what we call fear. Fear is a resistance of Love. Fear is Love, expressing itself as fear. In the same way that darkness is the pinching off of Light, fear is the pinching off of Love. Darkness is light, expressing itself dimly as what we would call darkness.
If you want to believe that you are not loved, Creation says, “Okay. Feel free. I Love you NONE-the-less.”
In every situation, at all times, no matter what you do, no matter who you are, no matter what you’ve done, and no matter what you think, you are Unconditionally Loved.
You Are Love
It is up to you to stop hiding from Love. It is up to you to energetically open yourself up to Love. It is up to you to let go of the negative thoughts pinching you off from Love. It is up to you to be Loved, to be Loving, to be Love.
Love IS you. Unconditional Love is WHO YOU ARE.
You are Unconditionally Loved.
You are Unconditional Love.
It is by opening up to the Unconditional Love that is already right here, right now, that you really open up to being who you truly are, right Now.
True Love is non-dualistic.
There is no opposite to Love. Fear is not an opposite to Love, but rather a resistance to Love. Fear is the energy of Love filtered through the mind, distorted, and then resisted. The emotion experienced we call fear.
There are no Lovers or Lovees. There is only Love. Love is All That Is.
When they say “God is Love” and “Love is the only Truth,” this is what they mean. God is All That Is. Love is All That Is. You are All That Is.
You are God. You are Love. You are the Infinite.
You are not just this separate human being bouncing around over here. You are everything.
Love, because it is everything and everyone, applies to everyone and everything. This is called Unconditional Love.
If the love is unconditional for this person, but not for that person, we’re not talking about true Unconditional Love. Like the light of the sun, Unconditional Love shines upon everyone equally, regardless of if you’re a “good person” or a “bad person.” Unconditional Love withholds from no one.
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We’ve all heard the famous statement in the Bible saying, “Judge not, lest ye not be judged.” (Matthew 7:1)
Great, but what does that really mean, especially to those of us who don’t speak Shakespearean? 
I recently listened to Bashar explain this statement and it was truly an eye-opening experience so I’d like to share this realization with you all now.
It seems that the above statement regarding judgment has been misinterpreted by people over time, something very common (and actually almost unavoidable) when people try to understand something that someone who’s coming from a much higher level of consciousness has said. In the process there’s been some information that was, shall we say, lost in translation.
A Judgmental God?
There’s the myth that God is basically a human ego, just a larger and more powerful one, an angry and jealous God who judges all others.
Chances are if you’re reading this site, the idea that God is a spiteful, angry, and jealous God feels a little off and you’re open to something else. With that, let’s take a look at the statement, “judge not, lest ye not be judged” from a higher perspective.
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