How To Deal With Negative Emotions

Question:

Dear Ariel,

You must experience negative emotions, right? If so, how do you deal with them when they arise?

Thanks,

M.

My Response:

Yep, I’m just as human as anyone else. We are human beings. Even when we are “being,” there is still the human side of us happening as well.

Perhaps when we are fully enlightened and have completely healed all our unbeneficial energies, we will no longer experience any negative emotions, but until then, there’s still more healing and transformation work to be done to reconnect fully back to our light, our essence.

Now, with respect to dealing with negative emotions, there are soooo many ways of dealing with them. There’s therapy, journaling, exercising, thinking more positive thoughts, drugs, and so on. I’m sure you’ve tried many methods as well. We all have.

Here’s what I have found works best for me at this point in my life:

Unconditional Allowance

It comes down to this: Completely and unconditionally allow myself to be who I am and to experience whatever it is that is arising.

As discussed previously, EVERYTHING IS THE ONE.

Negative emotions are often given a bad rap because they don’t feel so good. There’s a form of judgment being applied in the mind, as if we shouldn’t feel that way, or there’s something wrong with us. Perhaps we’re not enlightened enough or we’re engaging in unconsious or animalistic behavior. Perhaps we’re just being a baby. Whatever. There’s a sense of something is wrong and arising out of this assumption is a desire to fix what is broken.

I would suggest that nothing is going wrong and nothing is broken.

As we let go of our mind’s judgments and neurotic desire to not allow everything to be as it is, we begin opening up to the possibility of the realization that Everything is the One.

With this shift, we can see that every negative emotion is simply the One choosing to experience itself as a negative emotion. Like a shape-shifter, it can become that. “I am upset,” as if the One is literally upsetness itself. Classic false identification.

It’s nothing evil. It’s nothing bad. It’s nothing wrong. It’s simply the One experiencing yet another aspect of itself.

Seeing this, we can allow the One to experience ourselves in this way.

…and here’s the interesting thing:

When you allow yourself to fully experience whatever it is that you’re experiencing, it often dissolves the struggle right then and there!

Resist Not

If you’re experiencing resistance, just totally allow yourself to resist the heck out of it.

If you’re feeling depressed, completely allow yourself to be the most depressed person who ever lived.

Give yourself the opportunity to fully embrace the emotion, without resisting it.

When you do so, you create an openness for the emotional energy to pass right through you and out on its own.

Energy wants to move. When we block it by resisting it, that’s when we have problems. When we open up and allow it to flow, the energy continues on and flows right out of us naturally.

So it really comes down to accepting yourself fully as you are and allowing yourself to be yourself on every level.

To thine own self be true.

Really. Just be yourSelf. Who you really are. For who you really are is already whole, complete, and well, just as it is. It doesn’t need to be fixed in any way.

All is well.