Allowing Manifestations to Enter Your Life

Question:

Dear Ariel,

I had a realization while reading Ask and it is Given and the first book in Conversations with God for the first time -- I had been focusing on lack! I had been focusing on what I didn’t have, and trying to ’solve’ it through spirituality, etc. No wonder I wasn’t getting the job I wanted or the success with women I wanted! Duh!

So, I’ve started reframing myself, and *knowing* it’ll happen. And you know what? I got a call from a friend, saying the place he works at is hiring. A girl opened *me* tonight (she looks like a fun one too). I can see thing manifesting, and I know that God will give me everything I desire in time.

My question is -- what can I do to remove resistance and make things manifest even *quicker*? Understand, since I was a fundamentalist Christian I had all the exact WRONG frames at one point -- “You are a sinner”, “Sex is sinful”, “You shouldn’t want money for what you do” etc. I’m still finding these things. It’s like rolling around in the sand at the beach. I’ve got em’ hidden in places I didn’t even know I had.

Is it good to completely ignore that this part of my life ever happened? Just forget it and watch it un-manifest? Should I go through frame by frame reframing myself? How can I *know* what I don’t see (the age old question of faith)?

The other problem is that these things will start to manifest, and in the past, I’d worry about losing them or screwing them up -- so of course they’d magically die in transit. (Wonder why? *laughs*) What can I do to trust the full process?

B.

My comments:

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You’ve brought up some excellent questions regarding the manifestation and what is commonly called The Law of Attraction. Let’s break down exactly what you did, what worked, what didn’t, and what can be done to make your manifestations more effective, to take you to the next level.

First and foremost, by changing your focus from what you are lacking to what you are now choosing, you brought yourself into vibrational alignment with what you do want. Thus, you began attracting the new job and the new girl and because the universe is set up in such a way that it acts like a mirror for your own internal state, your external world produced a reflection of your internal thoughts. It always does.

Perfect. Manifestation includes 3 stages and you’ve successfully completed the first two. The third and final stage needs some adjustment given that you want to completely manifest these new things.

What are the 3 stages in manifestation? As taught in the popular movie The Secret, they are as follows:

3 Stages of Manifestation

1. Ask
2. Answer
3. Receive

You are asking and the universe is answering. It always does. The big question then becomes are you willing to receive?

They didn’t talk much about the correct way of receiving in the film, perhaps due to time constraints, so let’s go into it in a little more detail here.

First of all, how long it takes something to manifest and come into your life is NOT a matter of time. In reality, it’s purely a function of RESISTANCE. The more resistance you’re offering something, perhaps by having opposing beliefs, the desire to control its manifestation, engaging fears about what’ll happen when you do or do not get it, or even having a craving or needing feeling within will actually push AWAY that which you want.

Limiting Beliefs

Beliefs such as “You are a sinner” and “Sex is sinful” clearly are not serving you any longer. Furthermore, they hold you back from creating the reality you say you want, not to mention they have no truth in ultimate reality anyways. These two beliefs are rooted in guilt and shame, among the lowest of all ego-based states. They have nothing to do with Truth, Joy, or Love. At all.

The bad feelings they create will literally hold you apart from the good feeling manifestations you wish to experience.

To “sin” literally means to “miss the mark.” The mark, to use Christian lingo since that’s where the term ’sin’ was popularized, is Christ consciousness (aka Buddha nature, Krishna spirit, True Self, etc.), the level of consciousness that is in alignment with the kingdom of God, the level of non-dualistic Oneness. God is Love and any feeling other than Love such as guilt, shame, damnation, suffering, and neediness are all ’sins’ in this context which arise from within the human ego. They’re not inherently “bad” in any way. They are simply missing the mark of Christ/Unity consciousness, of nondualistic unconditional Love.

The hard way of overcoming your limiting beliefs is to brute-force your way there, to inundate yourself with positive affirmations and mental reframes to counteract the momentum of any negative beliefs. I’m not going to suggest you drop affirmations altogether, but allow me to suggest a tool to complement your affirmations and make the process much easier.

Letting Go of Resistance

A lot of our beliefs have a strong emotional charge, a sense of momentum that takes a lot of energy to override. Instead of trying to meet a car head-on and push it the other way, why not put it in neutral and allow it to dissipate on its own, no matter how hard the engine revs? From that point, changing direction becomes much easier, as does sitting still in peace if you so choose.

This is the essence of letting go. Check out the Sedona Method. It’s essentially a guide to mastering the final step of manifestation, of allowing manifestations to enter your life.

Basically what it does is take all the wind out of the sails of your beliefs, emotions, traumas, resistance, and struggles. It puts you in the natural state of total freedom where you’re no longer being pulled in any direction by a power seemingly out of your control. From this place of freedom, it’s MUCH easier to now guide yourself along a particular course of action and allow manifestations to enter your life.

You see, it is the resistance that holds desires back from physical manifestation. It is resistance that tells the universe, “No, what I asked for, I don’t want to allow into my life, even if it’s staring me straight in the face.”

Let go of resistance and watch as manifestation becomes effortless and natural. Synchronistic perfection becomes a way of life, not just an occasional miracle.

Trusting the Process

The universe always gives you abundance. Whether it’s an abundance of abundance or an abundance of lack, your beliefs are the driving force that determines which flavor of abundance you experience.

One of my favorite things to do with the Sedona Method is to let go of needing to control an outcome. You’re not in control anyways. The universe is. The universe can be trusted. By letting go of the illusion of personal control, you allow the universe to work with you, through you, in the way it knows best.

It is easier said than done to trust the universe, so having a set of tools to show you precisely how to let go is extremely valuable. In my experience, trusting the universe arises automatically when I stop trying to worry, control, manipulate, or be fearful of anything, when I stop trying to play the dualistic tennis match of trusting or not trusting the universe.  Trust seems to be the natural state when you quit telling yourself otherwise. When you can become totally okay with whatever happens (by applying the Method), a sense of trust naturally arises. It’s wonderful, actually.

This has shown itself to be a much better method than simply trying to convince myself to trust. It is my suggestion that you try it out for yourself as well.

This is a great tool to add on to your current visualization and manifestation techniques to let go of those resistances which hold your desires apart from you. This is how to master the final step of manifestation: allowing manifestations to enter your life.

Thanks for your question.